I must give credit where it is due. There are some men out there who know how to show their appreciation for their women. A reader named Jessie told me she has one. I'm one of course. I've known a few others too.
Now, for those of you who don't know what I'm talking about, you're in the right place.
First of all, you men can't be too tough to take the time to please your woman. She pleases you right? If she doesn't, you should get rid of her. For those of you with women who get the job done, you must work hard to satisfy her.
We are accustomed to labeling such men "Hen pecked" or "Whipped." This is macho foolishness. When you go out of your way to please a good woman, you will get more goodness in return. Its only natural. When she's happy and grateful for the way you treat her, she loves you more. That makes her treat you better.
For you guys who find this shocking, I must assume you will find this hard to practice. Therefore, I'm going to share a few examples from my repertoire.
The easiest show of affection is initiating hand holding. This is especially effective in places where other women are present. It shows your mate you want to be close to her even when there is eye candy available. I suggest taking things a step further with a soft kiss--preferably on her forehead, but on the lips will do.
If you're in a line, stand behind her and hug her close. Pin her back to your chest. Whisper something into her ear while you're at it. "I love you," is nice. "You're beautiful," works too. You can also try, "I'm happy to have you."
There are classic shows of chivalry that ladies still appreciate too. Try opening doors and pulling out her chair. Give her a pet name. You can be more creative than that and come up with a secret sign or word.
Don't forget your Pleases and Thank Yous.
In private you can enjoy one of your woman's most precious gifts. You don't even have to get naked. She could if she chooses to, but its not necessary. Simply lay her down and caress her body. Move your hands slowly with just enough pressure to stimulate her skin. Don't touch her in any way that suggests you may want sex until the first objective is complete.
This objective is pleasant conversation. Your touch will soothe her body. Talking eases her mind, and makes her feel closer to you. Always be careful not to offer advice nor solutions to issues you may perceive as problems unless she asks for such feedback. Women enjoy sharing for different reasons than men do. Men discuss problems to find solutions or to seek validation. Women share to relieve their minds. Remember, she thinks and feels deeper than men do. She has a lot on her mind as a result. We have to be strong and patient enough to be there for them in the ways they need us.
Sex is a different matter altogether. Everyone has unique preferences. However, my personal practices have never failed me. Be very patient during foreplay...
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...I'm Supaman, but I know there is still more I can learn in this regard. Please share any advice you can. We can all grow together. The point is to learn how to make our lives and relationships more fulfilling in healthy ways.
Supaman Tion Terrell